My Stop Doing List

As we move into the new year, I have a weird mix of pigeons (Josh Pais’ Committed Impulse reference) –

excitement, scared, alive, unsure

you name it.

2012 has been a pretty amazing year for my business and I. The first reason being that my business was born in 2012. Sure, I had been freelancing on the side for a couple of years, but hadn’t yet taken the leap of faith to do my own thing and rely on myself for a paycheck. It was scary, but something I knew I always wanted to do.

Speaking of that, I’ve got something special planned to celebrate my official Year 1 of Creative Freedom. Stay tuned.

Reason #2 – 2012 taught me A LOT about myself. What I started out doing eight months ago is not even close to what I have planned in 2013. 2012 was a year of evolution and changing, as I expect 2013 will be, because we must always be changing in order to grow. Just goes to show that wanting everything ‘perfect’ before you start is the most awful excuse you can have for not starting.


So, in honor of evolving, I’ve decided that instead of declaring my goals for 2013 (that post coming up soon), first, I would focus on what I don’t want to do in 2013. Danielle LaPorte has taught the importance of in order to be doing more of what you want, you have to stop doing things so that you can make room for the others.

This applies to the better half of 2013 as I wrap things up with current and some future clients.


I’m declaring my stop doing list to the world, because :

  1. I mean it!
  2. I hope it will help hold me accountable to actually stop doing these things
  3. I deserve to.


Okay, without further ado, here’s what I’m going to stop doing in 2013:


01. Design


Yes, that’s right. I love designing, but it’s time to step back. When I think about what I want to be known for, it’s not design. That was simply my entry into the online world.

In order to use my creative energy boiling up inside of me everyday, I’m only going to take on a very, VERY limited number of clients to work 1-on-1 with. Only projects that truly excite me. Naturally, these clients will get extra special attention. As I’ve continued designing, the routine task of working on other projects has gotten to me, and I haven’t been able to pay as much attention to each of my clients as I would want to. This just can’t be. I would rather work with 4 people every year and treat them like queens, rather than work with 25 and feel like a Photoshop robot. It’s just not for me. Fear not, though, for everyone else, I’m going to focus my energy on working with larger groups at a time, because that’s where I excel. I’m just going to make everything I create EXTRA PRETTY (using that design background)!

In order to stop doing this, I’ve deleted the Brand Spark Intensive off of my Work With Me page. That’s the first step to stop doing things. Don’t advertise it anymore.


02. I won’t let social media distract me

That means I won’t be leaving Facebook open in a separate tab ‘just in case’ someone posts something new. As I write this, I realize how ridiculous it is that I even have to write this down, but it’s the truth. Disconnecting from social media is a difficult thing.


03. I won’t let resistance stop me

This, as many of you can probably relate, is big one. This is what the stage of my projects looks like:

Pure excitement

Jot down the problem that it solves

Determine who would be willing to purchase

Buy the domain name

Design a logo

1 day later….

Complete self-doubt

Is anybody even going to buy this?

Why am I wasting my time?

I don’t have the background to teach this.

I should just scrap it and focus on what I’m supposed to be doing.

3 months later….

The same idea comes back around (because obviously it’s a good one), but you still go through the same stages of the cycle – pure excitement and complete self-doubt.

Have you been there before?

It’s time to follow-through.

It’s time to get out of our own heads and stop over-thinking it.


04. Stop being such a control freak. 

I’m going to learn to rely on others a bit more than I have in the past. I need to let go a little and trust that other people can hold up the fort while I’m doing what I’m best at. It’s the only way to make shit happen.


05. Stop staying up late

Sometimes I get extra bursts of creative energy that I feel I just HAVE to follow through on, but I wake up the next morning upset that I ‘slept in’, when in reality I still only got 7 hours of sleep. Plus, going to bed at the same time as my husband is something I should do more often (even though he does go to bed pretty early!).


I’m sure I’ll continue adding to my list, but this sums it up for now.

One more time for good measure.

In 2013, I’m going to stop:

  • Booking client design projects
  • Letting social media distract me
  • Letting resistance stop me
  • Being a control freak
  • Staying up late




Your turn!

Is there something that’s on your Stop Doing List that you just need to shout out to the world in order to actually stop doing it?

Write it in the comments. I’ll hold you to it! Promise.


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31 thoughts on “My Stop Doing List”

    1. Yes- that’s also a good one! Value your own time and stop giving it away 🙂

      I’m pretty selfish with my time, which is what sealed the decision to move farther away from 1-on-1 work. It’s the truth, so why hide it?!

  1. I’m totally with you on the “Staying Up Late” issue. Especially in the last month, I’ve noticed that I miss just snuggling up with my hubby + talking as we close out our day. Relationships should ALWAYS take precedent over jobs/projects/things.

    I’m also going to stop:

    – Waiting for Perfect // I always want to have my ducks in a row before launching something, announcing something, etc. Sometimes, you just have to jump in because honestly, “perfect” never comes.

    – Making Apologies // I don’t have the degree in the field where I’m working + I feel like I’m always falling over myself to prove to others/apologize to others where I feel I’m lacking. In reality, I’m doing just fine + can hold my own.

    1. I 100% agree about the relationships! It’s easy to forget but not easy to get back once you’ve lost it!

      Also – waiting for perfect is a big one! I’ve found that the more you can keep your audience in the loop about future programs/products, the more likely they are to purchase because they actually feel like they took the creation journey with you 🙂

  2. omg Amanda… this could be my list!! When i saw “01. Design”, i shrieked with excitement! i have been beating myself up for wanting to give up what has been my bread & butter for years now. Your list reminds me that’s it’s ok to want change. Thank you. xox

    1. YES! It’s almost like a guilty feeling to you, too, right? Change is what is going to allow us to grow! I embrace change and actually encourage it. If something isn’t working – scrap it as quickly as you can!

    1. Yes & make sure you’re in a capacity to really want that change. In the past, this has been a struggle for me, but once I deeply want something, I’ll do anything to change it. That’s where I am now!

  3. I also need to stop doubting myself. I have a great project that I am passionate about, however, I continue repeating the same cycle you mentioned above. Great idea, self doubt, leaving it alone to only constantly think about it. I need to move forward, if just one little step at a time. I am so glad I found you!!! You are very inspiring!

  4. It sounds silly but the staying up late one resonates SO. MUCH. for me. Unfortunately my boyfriend DOESN’T go to bed early and gets me in the habit of staying up but, in 2013, I’m officially saying: no more suddenly realizing it’s 4:30 am (yes, really) and I haven’t even thought about going to bed!

  5. This was such a lovely post to read! I can particularly relate to ‘the resistance!’ Damn resistance! In 2013 I want to give up poor eating habits (I’m one of those ‘eat pizza every night’ kind of gals at the moment) and laziness. I also need to start leveraging my skills more… the laziness and resistance kind of gets in my way with that! Anyway, thanks for posting this — it’s nice to read something so honest 🙂

    1. Thanks, Lizzie! And you’re so welcome! I’m in the same boat as you with the eating habits. I recently found out that I’m lactose intolerant (like many adults), so I’ve had to give up my one love – cheese! Now, I replace one meal a day with a green smoothie! So far, so good!

  6. Eeep! Totally the social media thing. That’s my achilles heel and it doesn’t even add to my creativity or well being at all! I’ve been getting better and better at it, but 2013 is the year I’m gonna OWN that shit. BTW, calling yourself a Photoshop Robot made me laugh out loud. That’s exactly what I was for the first 2 days of this week. No more…

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  13. Laziness, resistance, repeating unnecessary tasks, getting distracted by social media, getting distracted by procrastination, think more with reason and less with emotion… these are some of the items of my brand new list.

    I’ve been following your work for a while now and I have to say it really helps me get back on track every time distraction strikes back at me. I can’t remember how i’ve got to your website but it was and still is a great discovery.

    Thank you Amanda!

    1. Hi Sofia! That makes me SO happy to hear! I’m glad you’re here and remember to let me know if you’re struggling with anything in particular.

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